For the past few weeks we have been trying to get our son transferred over to OSU. He wanted to wait until he had finished this last semester and got his grades in because he was trying to get a merit transfer scholarship. He did in fact get one but not the one he wanted. He missed it by 0.03 points. That is kind of eating at him because he was so close and the extra money would be nice, but the truth is that he did the best he could do and you can't ask for more than that. But he's a lot like me in that he can be a bit of a perfectionist and tends to get into the if onlys if I don't watch him.
We have been filling out paper work (fun times in the big city,) writing essays, choosing dorms and trying to figure out how to pay for it all. I went through a bad patch where I had my stomach tied up in knots of the last of the list. With two boys in college we are pushing ourselves to the limit financially. Still, I finally got smart and took it to the Lord and things got better. Not that the facts have changed but I'm taking it one day at a time and trusting that the Lord will do what is best for my son.
It's a good thing too because right about the time I got my head clear, I got a midnight call from my son who was having a major melt down about all the things I was worried about plus a few that I wasn't. I told him that he didn't have to worry about them not transferring classes because they had already accepted his transcript and said which classes they would accept. As far as how much it was going to cost, all we could worry about without going crazy was this semester and this semester we had the money. Next semester we would worry about next semester. We would either have the money or we wouldn't. If we didn't we would decide what to do then. If we did then we wouldn't need to worry. The truth is we don't know what the future will bring. He could get sick and not be able to attend classes for all we know. There is no since in worrying about the what ifs until they happen.
I'm getting nervous about sending my son off because, while he has been very level headed thus far, this will be the first time that he has been off on his own. He asked me to ask our pastors wife about churches in the area, (she graduated from OSU.) She named off a couple that were close; one within walking distance. I figure if I get him involved in the BCM and a good church that will help a lot. He has also asked to be put in an all male engineering dorm. Hopefully that will get him away from the partying crowd and get him more studious friends. No guarantee, but I'm hoping. Mike wants him to get involved in any engineering groups that are available because he says it will help him get a job. My parent's neighbor, who did the Mars Lander project for NASA told him to be sure to try to get an internship during his senior year. Their neighbor said that if he can swing one with NASA it will give him an in after he graduates.
But today we work on getting in, making it to his new student orientation, getting the right classes, getting a dorm, finding a good church, and making good grades. The rest we rest we leave for later. Half the things we worry about never happen and most of the other half aren't as bad as we think they will be. We'll take care of them as they come up.
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Your family will be in my prayers, love you dear one.
Sounds like your son is on the right track. I don't know what it's like where you are, but around here unless you go to a Christian college, university is VERY faith-unfriendly place. I've heard stories of professors openly mocking their Christian students and expressing a Christian worldview can be dangerous if you want to pass. We've got 2 universities in town and I've heard horror stories. Of course, this is Canada where Christians are second class citizens anyways. I'm glad your son wants to find a fellowship near his school. Praying that God keep his hand firmly upon him!
It's not as bad here as it is in other places. We happen to be in the buckle of the bible belt and so they have actually had a fair number of christian instructors. Of those who aren't, most aren't openly hostile. Only once have they had an instructor who openly discounted their faith and even he had to back up a time or two.
In this area it tends to be more subtle. It's in the things they talk about and the asignments they give. They things people of faith believe aren't necessarily bad but they need to here other ideas too. In a way that is true because these are ideas that they will meet in the world and they need to be able to defend their faith and to do that they have to own it. They can't just say "Well my mom said..."
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